Don't Go Changin'
Anybody remember that old song that went, "Don't go changin', tryin' to please me/I've never been displeased before..." Something like that. Well, it's the funniest thing. My best friend and I are dating now, and he's worried that somehow, I'll change on him. He thinks that somehow, I won't be the person that he can go to to answer any questions going on in his head, or that my feelings will get hurt by the way he speaks--now that we're emotionally involved.
We find ourselves in an odd predicament. Best friends, in love. We always loved each other. We've been friends for 8 years now, and it seems I'm the only one who can get along with him for any extended period of time besides his daughter. He notices and cares about stuff that no man has ever mentioned before. It's too funny.
The night I went over to his house for his birthday, we talked for the first time about how we felt about each other. Before he said anything, though, he took one look at my hair and asked, "When's the last time you went to the hairdresser?" I thought that was a funny question, then I thought about it and told him it had been some months. So on his birthday, he gave me a gift--money to get my hair done. He's just the sweetest thing. When he held me for the first time, he noticed that I was 'a little soft', and that I was not getting enough protein. So he bought me this huge can of whey protein to make sure I get what I need. It's been wild: he seriously wants to make sure I have whatever I need. He's actually getting me a new phone because he said it's costing me too much to talk and send him texts on the one that I have. He got my son a football, and he bends over backwards to make sure my daughter's happy .
The best way I can describe the way I feel about our relationship is that it's the fulfillment of a dream that I didn't even know I had. Do you know what I mean? I am a modern woman, very independant. I don't ask anyone for anything. I've been taking care of my children on my own since I had them. I pay my own bills, buy my own food, fight my own battles. I do not ask for help, and I'm not used to getting any. And I learned to accept this as a fact of life. Now, I've got someone who's pretty much stepped up to the plate as more than just another boyfriend. He helps me discipline my kids, he doesn't ask me if I need anything because he knows I'll say no. He just gives me whatever he thinks I need. He listens to me, he texts me in the morning just to say good morning, and that he loves me. He calls me on his lunch breaks, and even though he has to get to work for 5:30 in the morning, he'll talk to me all night if I have something on my mind. He treats me like I'm important to him. It's beyond a trip.
The nature and dynamics of our relationship have changed a whole lot, but I do believe that it's for the better. Nothing is better than being in love with your best friend, except for the feeling that you get knowing that he loves you back.
posted by Ekklektia @ 9:19 AM
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